Coming From a White Girl

It sounds so cliche to say, but I honestly do not see color as an issue at all in my life, so I feel very silly to write on it at all.  And then I realize, “Thank God it is not an issue!”  I am thankful to be on this end of Martin Luther King’s dream. This world is not perfect but I believe we are living what he dreamed about in many ways.

However, he still inspires me with this quote. When we chose comfort, popularity, money, the list goes on, when we chose to be silent when we should speak up, we, as a person and as a nation, begin to die.  Yes!  There are so many fights that we have grown tired of fighting but the causalities are still being added daily.  MLK was a strong fighter of abortion.  It is that fight that everyone says, “No, don’t bring that up again.”  But I do believe that MLK would be on the front line defending the helpless one more time.

Today, on this holiday,  I am thankful for good change and freedoms that are now enjoyed by those that once did not have them.  And today I still dream of a better tomorrow.

34 thoughts on “Coming From a White Girl

  1. At first I liked this post for the quote, but then you seemed to co-opt this day, celebrating the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., as a platform for a “Pro-Life” sentiment. So, there are two things I have to address: 1) as a “white girl,” color certainly has little significance in your world — it does in mine when I see how blacks continue to be treated and regarded differently. There has been tremendous change in the last 50 years. I’m not invalidating your opinion, but, inherently, we will be seeing the world and our own country through different lenses because of our experiences; and 2) I am always confused by the mean-spiritedness I’ve seen toward minority families and their live out-of-the-womb children, who receive government assistance. Some of those same people want to protect the fetus, but deny the child what it needs at a subsidence level of life. My three cents on the matter. As always, I enjoy reading your posts.

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    • Thank you so much for your comments! I agree that I can not “know what it is like” as is the case with almost any issue in life that someone has not endured but I certainly hope that today, Martin Luther king jr’s bday is not a day only celebrated by blacks, so I meant to write how his life has impacted mine. In very simple terms, as it was a short post. I definitely highly regard your personal feelings. And again thank you friend!

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    • I think your comment is spot on in general. It’s easy for Whites to say that we don’t see color. Or that we may think racism is silly. The truth of the matter, as a White woman myself, I am not racist. But I do see color. I’m thankful to see color. I’m thankful to see nationalities. I’m thankful to see the differences all around me that make the world beautiful. But I can’t, for one moment, understand what it is like to be Black, Asian, Hispanic, and any other ethnicity that is not my own. I haven’t walked that mile in your shoes. I can’t fully understand how some cultural societies are treated as far as inequalities. I can only understand from injustices that I have lived through in my own life as a victim. My struggles may be different but we’ve all cried, we have all struggled, we have all wished that at some point there was someone around us that understood our darkest moments.

      While I can’t erase the past that the world has bled upon itself from thousands of years of humans mistreating one another, I can empathize and do my part to make a better future and teach my children love and peace. That is all we can do. Inspire hope. Plant the seed of change and encourage that development.

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  2. I grew up I saw Mister king I heard him speak. My father said he was a great man one to whom all of us should listen and follow or emulate for his words came from the word of God he was a man of God. another man my father told me was deserving of our respect was a red haired ex nation of Islam speaker who chose the name Macomb X. I saw what the KKK did to my friends and their homes I saw cross burnings and my friend running and my father driving them away. He always shook his head and told us all that no matter what a person color was it is not to be considered where one comes from is nothing anyone born here is an American and should be treated as such. I was told God created the human race isn’t that something and his only division was in language even God does not see color , well he does see inside so I guess he sees red the universal color, but sadly All those who yell about the ism the old ancient hurts and insults they choose to keep old hurts alive and reject all that the children have done and could do. The ism lovers always seeking an out look for their rage and hate, if they would keep silent and teach this that all people have suffered as slaves all people have been the brunt of insults it is not the so property of one group. And even today at this moment their are slaves of all colors around the world their are Spanish speaking youths even now held as sex slaves, but many of these are white and yes African sex slaves exist in Muslim countries as well for Christian slaves do exist in most Muslim countries. as we are taught to argue and fight in our nation over the past thus rejecting forgiveness and love , the world over evil prevails and grows in the land we all love.
    My family is made up of all colors all almost all languages and I am proud to be a mixed breed it makes me unique. One man I met thirty years ago told me how to know a bigot, here is his rule. If they get angry at the action of another but are silent when there are riots and robberies they are bigots and thieves, if they justify destruct saying it was the victims fault they are bigots and ism vile people who can not forgive who hate them selves., if they can not love first and give without question to uplift they may be a bigot. He went on to speak of ministers like himself who spoke of destruction as good and hate and retribution as good and said read son for Satin controls them. Yes my friend was a great man he was a Baptist minister of what he call African descent who was an American by birth and a follower of Christ Jesus by choice. I loved him he was great honest and he hated no one but said love works so much better than destruction , today people talk but they do not practice love and empathy; but he as I saw a glimmer of real hope children. as long as the parents kept silent about the past. Until we learn to forgive and stop demanding but really working the dream will never become a full reality except in place where government and social engineering can not reach. May you all be blessed may you all find love

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  3. I have to confess that this phrase “I don’t see color, ” baffles me, because I’m not sure what it means; it seems more like an act of will to ignore it, than to simply acknowledge it as not an issue. Maybe I’m splitting hairs, but I really don’t understand how you NOT see what someone obviously is, when the title of your piece is ‘Coming From a White Girl.” Clearly, you’re aware of it, but I guess the underlying meaning is then, “Skin color is not an issue with me,” which I think is more accurate. I don’t mean to pick on you, per se, but you should know that a lot of people of color feel like the phrase is dismissive, when in fact, skin color plays a vital part of what shapes us as people on this fallen earth. We can be different, and still celebrate together. Acknowledging our differences doesn’t nullify our ability to set them aside as a source of negativity, or indeed, embrace them as a positive thing at best, or at least, a learning experience. It’s all in how we choose to treat them. That being said, I liked what you had to say, and I too, am glad to be on this side of the Dream as well.

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  4. I don’t mean any disrespect to smithaw50, but he just proved that the pendulum has shifted so far the other way that many white people are afraid to say anything for fear that the “Anticipated” will replace the truth with the perceived. As a white man married to an American Indian, I witnessed her tribe being spit at by black teenagers as they marched in a parade. Yet, the argument made was that a black man cannot be racist and these were just misguided youth. Hate is hate. Hate makes color an issue. However, love wipes out the color issue.

    How do I know that love wipes out the color issue? It is because I am blessed to belong to a church that has a good 50/50 black/white ratio. One of my greatest joys is being beside little five foot Marcie (a black lady about my age) as she gets caught up in worship. When in the presence of God and His love, who gives a rip about color? Not Me!

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  5. I’m a white woman. And at times, I have been ridiculously colorblind — like the time I commented about how a girl I knew was “taking after her parents” and soneone had to point out that she was adopted and, furthermore, she was black whike they were white. I’m kinda blind to the obvious like that in general.

    Many of us, as well-meaning people, like to think we don’t have a racist bone in our body. And that could be true. But we are iften blind to our own privilege — in fact, it’s hard not to get, at times, irritated or impatient at the very idea of there being such a thing as white privilege. We like to complain that the pendulum has shifted too far and that we are afraid to speak out for fear of being misunderstood. To which I say, “Good grief, we may be white-skinned, but that doesn’t mean we have to be so thin-skinned, and such wimpy whiners.” It makes us look like spoiled, bratty children who think everything is about us, and we should get everything we want. It reminds me of the boy who threw a tizzy fit at the park because he didn’t want to have to “share” the playground equipment.

    Having our words misunderstood is no big deal. Being called out for saying stupid stuff is not the end of the world. Having to acknowledge that our precinceived notions aren’t always correct is a good thing. So is shutting up and listening when people of other races and ethnic groups talk about their own experinces. Color may not be an issue to us, but that’s probably because we are the predominant ethnic group in our culture, the “default race”, so to speak.

    We need to realize that our perspective and memories of Martin Luther King, Jr. may differ a lot from each other. What he means to us personally may differ as well. I am old enough to remember watching his “I have a dream” speech on TV. I remember wishing I were older and richer so I could fly across the country to join him in his marches. He was my hero, and I felt shattered when he was assasinated.

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  6. I think I would like to know you better. There are so many things we could share as sisters and mothers and lover’s of Christ…I am ashamed to say that it is just now that I have allowed myself to look up from my teeny tiny world of writing so the I can live-there is so much beauty all around me! “Coming From a White Girl…?” Hmmm…yesss but to me, it feels more like, “Coming From a Soul That Had a View From the Other Side of the Very Same Room I Was In–We Need to Connect Our Dots!” Lol! I am so socially delayed, forgive me. I am looking forward to knowing you and your Journey better this year!

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